Joy in the Stretching

January 6, 2022 – Thursday

Joy in the Stretching

Praise the Lord for His goodness!  The lemons of yesterday, breast biopsies and no heat, made the sweetest lemonade.  I refused to allow them to make me pucker and pout.  Instead I chose joy.  There were times it wasn’t easy and my mind wanted to travel down the darkest most familiar path of worry.  Yet I refused, time and time again.  Did I worry a little? Yes.  But did I persevere? Yes!  As I sat in the sterile room, my breast in compression, awaiting biopsy I was uncomfortable.  I was uncomfortable about the needle.  I was uncomfortable about the procedure.  I was uncomfortable about the results.  Being stretched is never comfortable -especially when it is your breast.  Those of you who have had a mammogram know what I am talking about.  Biopsy is breast compression plus needle.  Double whammy.

As we sit in a place of stretching… we have a choice.  Will we allow our mind to travel down every possible dark path of what if, doubt and worry it can find?  Or will we choose to focus on and trust God and pray for a heavenly perspective.  My first line of defense is to decree health and not come into agreement with sickness.  After that I lay it all at God’s feet and trust Him with the rest.  It is easier said than done.  It has taken years of stretching and practice.  I am not always good at it, but I am getting better.  I am paving new paths of joy, trust, and peace to travel down in lieu of the darkest valley.

Our brains have been created with the amazing capacity to remap pathways and neural connections.  This is known as neural plasticity.  Simply put, we are not at the mercy of our thoughts and experiences.  We can rewire our brains and alter our response to events that typically create a fight or flight response.

My beloved pastor at my church in Colorado initially introduced me to the concept of rewiring my brain.  He recommended the teachings by Dr. Caroline Leaf.  Dr. Leaf is a Christian neuroscientist whose passion is teaching people about the power of the mind to change their brain.  Her teachings are easy to understand, powerful, and life changing.   I have a link to those resources below.

“You are not a victim.  You can control your reactions.  You do have a choice.” ~ Switch on Your Brain, Dr. Caroline Leaf

I initially read Dr. Leaf's books back in 2018 when I was going through a period of intense anxiety.  I had never experienced anxiety to this level before and was at a complete loss on how to regain control of my thoughts.  With the help of my pastor, praying and supportive friends, Dr. Leaf’s teaching, a breathing coach, and anti-anxiety medication, I was on the road to recovery.  It was a painful season of stretching that was transformative.

There is so much more I could write about that season of my life and hope to get to that one day.  But for now… let’s get back to the stretching…

As I sat in the compression, waiting for the radiologist to examine the image and locate the place of biopsy, my thoughts wandered.  Time and time again I lassoed them up and redirected them.  As the radiologist approached I took a deep breath.  What happened next stunned me.  She told me that she couldn’t find the place of concern and that there would be no need for a biopsy today.  She apologized for the inconvenience and told me I could go home.  She recommended I come back in six months for follow up.  Praise God!  In my heart I knew it wasn’t anything concerning, but fear was screaming at me telling me otherwise.  I feel so thankful for God’s wisdom to identify anxiety and fear for what they are, and for the confidence and courage to face each challenge with joy.

On my way home I decompressed at the library picking up the Andy Griffith movies I had put on hold.  They had been free on Prime and we were having so much fun as a family watching these old shows together.  As of January 1 they are no longer free.  We are thankful the library is well stocked on Andy Griffith.  I then stopped by the used books for purchase and found so many!  Our home library continues to grow.  An over-abundance of books is part of the reason we spent so much of our Christmas break reorganizing.  We have to make space for the books!

That afternoon I got home to a warm house (the heat was fixed) and tender hug from husband.  Lemonade!!

Since December 31th, I have been journeying through this season of stretching.  It was only six days praise God (I have been stretched for much longer periods).  But without stretching there is no growth.  It isn’t the destination that God is after, it is the journey.  How we journey matters!

No matter what the stretching in your life, the outcome is extravagant, like a limousine.  Whatever you are facing – you can find the joy.  Even when it’s hard.   Fake it till you make it.  Skip the woe is me path and head down the road less traveled.  Maybe even start with serving others.  This less traveled path will make all the difference.

 

Resources:

VIDEOS

How too Detox Your Brain - Dr Caroline Leaf

 

BOOKS

Joy in Suffering

January 4, 2022 – Tuesday

Joy in Suffering

Yesterday morning, as I was writing about gratitude and joy, I heard the pitter patter of footsteps upstairs – a natural timer that tells me it is time to shift gears.  I greeted my children with smiles and prepared to start our day.  Over a yummy breakfast of Baked Pancakes, we resumed our Armor of God study.  As part of the study, the children had to look up various verses in the Bible.  I was helping my youngest find Ephesians, as he quickly paged backwards through the four chapters of Philippians.  The bold titles of Philippians flashed before my eyes: JOY IN GIVING, JOY IN BELIEVING, JOY IN SERVING, JOY IN SUFFERING.  I wanted to pause there, God had just given me the blue prints to joy!  Yes – there is joy in gratitude.  But here were four other layers the Lord was highlighting (all because we were in the Word)!!  But my son was moving on to Ephesians full steam ahead.  Philippians would have to wait.

I am finally able to open my Bible and get back to the blueprints the Lord laid before me yesterday.  This comes at a good time.  Today I am going back in for a follow up mammogram and ultrasound (Joy in Revival).  Anxiety has been shouting at me since I first got my results on Friday, December 31st.  Thank goodness I was knee deep in painting and covered from head to toe in the color of revival!  I had a choice over the past 4 days.   Was I going to choose joy or was I going to let worry consume me?  The quote from Corrie Ten Boom has been booming in my mind…

“Worrying is carrying tomorrow's load with today's strength- carrying two days at once. It is moving into tomorrow ahead of time. Worrying doesn't empty tomorrow of its sorrow, it empties today of its strength.” ― Corrie Ten Boom

Today was coming no matter the path I traveled.  All roads were leading to Tuesday.  The choice I had to make was which path I would take.  Would I take the scenic road with a heavenly perspective full joy, or choose the valley of the shadow of death ridden with weeds of worry and fear?  The latter is a familiar well-worn path with deep ruts from many years of travel.  My mind knows that path well and is comfortable with the familiar scenery.  Over the past decade I have been working diligently to pave new paths.  They are slowly forming ruts as well.  The old road of worry is no longer well maintained due to lack of travel.  There are now obstacles in the way.  Trees have fallen across the path. Mud slides have filled in the ruts.  New grass is growing making the path obscure.  I can still choose that path if I want.  Fortunately I don’t want to.  For years I didn’t even know there were other paths available.  But I have seen those paths and they are beautiful.  They are indeed less traveled.  It is always the road less traveled that makes the difference.

As I embarked on the four day wait to today… I literally had to refuse to travel down the path of worry.  I would shout NO! I refuse to travel down this road.  I will take the path less traveled!  I will choose joy!  Worrying about tomorrow today will do me no good.  This is easier said than done.  But it is said.  It is said time and time again in the Bible.  We are called to cast our worries on Jesus (1 Pet 5:7), to refuse to worry about tomorrow (Matt 6:34), to be joyful always and give thanks in all circumstances (1 Thess 5:16-18).  This is just the tip of the ice burg.

Pour out all your worries and stress upon him and leave them there, for he always tenderly cares for you. Be well balanced and always alert, because your enemy, the devil, roams around incessantly, like a roaring lion looking for its prey to devour. Take a decisive stand against him and resist his every attack with strong, vigorous faith. For you know that your believing brothers and sisters around the world are experiencing the same kinds of troubles you endure. 10 And then, after your brief suffering, the God of all loving grace, who has called you to share in his eternal glory in Christ, will personally and powerfully restore you and make you stronger than ever. Yes, he will set you firmly in place and build you up. 11 And he has all the power needed to do this—forever! (1 Peter 5:7-11, TPT)

34 Refuse to worry about tomorrow, but deal with each challenge that comes your way, one day at a time. Tomorrow will take care of itself.” (Matt 6:34, TPT)

16 Let joy be your continual feast. 17 Make your life a prayer. 18 And in the midst of everything be always giving thanks, for this is God’s perfect plan for you in Christ Jesus. (1 Thess 5:16-18, TPT)

God has given me the blueprints of joy in the four chapters of Philippians.  This is the road less traveled.  Today's path... joy in suffering.

Joy in Suffering:

We discover happiness when times are easy.  We discover true joy in Jesus.

In Paul’s letter to the Philippians, he is writing from prison as he awaits trial.  He is teaching about joy while he is in prison.  Perhaps he was preaching to himself what he knew to be true, but needed a reminder of.  Perhaps that is what I too am doing today.

 

Here is what I know to be true:

The enemy comes to steal and kill and destroy.  Jesus came to give us life in abundance (John 10:10).

10 A thief has only one thing in mind—he wants to steal, slaughter, and destroy. But I have come to give you everything in abundance, more than you expect—life in its fullness until you overflow! (John 10:10, TPT)

I am a daughter of the King (2 Cor 6:18).

I will be a true Father to you, and you will be my beloved sons and daughters,” says the Lord Yahweh Almighty.  (2 Cor 6:18, TPT)

By His stripes I am healed (Isa 53:5).

But he was wounded for our transgressions, he was bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace was upon him; and with his stripes we are healed. (Isa 53:5, KJV)

No weapons formed against me will prosper (Isa 54:17).

But I promise you, no weapon meant to hurt you will succeed, and you will refute every accusing word spoken against you.  This promise is the inheritance of Yahweh’s servants, and their vindication is from me,” says Yahweh. (Isa 54:17, TPT)

When I stand firm on God’s promises and trust Him with the details, I can be unshakable (Matt 7:24-25).

24 “Everyone who hears my teaching and applies it to his life can be compared to a wise man who built his house on an unshakable foundation. 25 When the rains fell and the flood came, with fierce winds beating upon his house, it stood firm because of its strong foundation. (Matt 7:24-25, TPT)

 

As I journey through the waiting, I choose to take this opportunity to experience the greatest joy that I can.  If I can tap into the endless fountain of abundant joy in the trial… finding it in the day-to-day will become second nature.  I feel like the Lord is saying this isn’t about the destination, but the journey.  How I journey through this matters.  Over the next days – my goal is to experience the abundant joy of Jesus.

My fellow believers, when it seems as though you are facing nothing but difficulties, see it as an invaluable opportunity to experience the greatest joy that you can! For you know that when your faith is tested it stirs up in you the power of endurance. And then as your endurance grows even stronger, it will release perfection into every part of your being until there is nothing missing and nothing lacking. (James 1:2-4, TPT)

Joy in Revival!

January 1, 2022 – Saturday

Joy in Revival!

Chickens.  They are all fun and games until the wind chill is -20 degrees.  Enough said.

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My favorite way to begin a new year is by listening to what the Lord is saying about the upcoming year.  This year I hear Him saying revival and authentic joy!  As we prepare to literally cover our parlor room walls in the color of “revival” I know this word is deeper than my paint can, and the year will reveal God’s truth one brush stroke at a time.

These words are timely.  The results from my mammogram were sent to my inbox yesterday and are indicative for a follow-up.  Ugh.  Joy is put to the test right out of the gates!

What strikes me about joy is that it is a choice we make despite our circumstances.  Joy is supernaturally empowered, and isn’t something we tap into by might or strength (Zech 4:6).  Authentic joy is dependent on Jesus.  Happiness is dependent on our circumstances.  Happiness can be found in paint colors.  When our identity is rooted in happiness it is shakable.  When a child takes a sharpie to our newly painted walls, happiness crumbles.  Authentic joy comes when our identity is firmly rooted in Christ and in His love for us.  This my friends is joy unshakable.  Its source?  Love.  Authentic joy is not dependent on “marker free” walls.  If we wait for our circumstances (or our parlor room) to be perfect, we may find happiness, but it is fragile and fleeting.  Joy on the other hand is a firm foundation that comes from Christ alone, and His deep love for us.

‘Not by might nor by power, but by My Spirit,’ says the Lord of hosts. (Zech 4:6, NKJV)

“Everyone wants to be happy; we make chasing this elusive ideal a lifelong pursuit: spending money, collecting things, and searching for new experiences. But if happiness depends on our circumstances, what happens when the toys rust, loved ones die, health deteriorates, money is stolen, and the party’s over? Often happiness flees and despair sets in.  In contrast to happiness stands joy. Running deeper and stronger, joy is the quiet, confident assurance of God’s love and work in our lives – that he will be there no matter what!  Happiness depends on happenings, but joy depends on Christ.”  (NIV Life Application Study Bible)

Joy and revival go hand-in-hand.  The definition of revival is to return to life or to recover it (Websters 1828).  Jesus came to give us life and to give it abundantly (John 10:10).  When we start to live life abundantly through Christ – we start to experience revival.  To revive our life, or to live life abundantly, we must first learn to tap into the joy that is found through Christ alone.  His joy is our strength (Neh 8:10), and is exceedingly abundantly above anything we could ever ask or imagine (Eph 3:20).

Revive: To return to life; to recover life. (Websters 1828)

I came that they may have life and have it abundantly. (John 10:10, ESV)

And do not be worried, for the joy of the Lord is your strength and your stronghold.” (Neh 8:10, AMP)

Now to Him who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us, (Eph 3:20, NKJV)

Our souls are longing for what our spirit knows is inherently ours.  Joy is our birthright.  As sons and daughters of the King – we have access to the abundance of Christ (Phil 4:19). Yet, so many of us are searching for authentic joy through happiness.  Joy can only be found in discovering Jesus’ love for us, and that joy is the strength that revives us.

I am convinced that my God will fully satisfy every need you have, for I have seen the abundant riches of glory revealed to me through Jesus Christ! (Phil 4:19, TPT)

As I am writing this, the song “Lookin’ for Love” by Johnny Lee is playing on repeat in my mind, while the Lord reminds me of my writing "Holding Out for a Hero". I invite you to join me there...

Lookin’ for Love (Johnny Lee, 1980)

CHORUS
I was lookin' for love in all the wrong places
Lookin' for love in too many faces
Searchin' their eyes
Lookin' for traces of what I'm dreaming of
Hoping to find a friend and lover
I'll bless the day I discover
Another heart lookin' for love

VERSES
I spent a lifetime lookin' for you
Single bars and good time lovers were never true
Playing a fools game, hopin' to win
Tellin' those sweet lies and losin' again

I was alone then, no love in sight
I did everything I could to get me through the night
I don't know where it started or where it might end
I turned to a stranger just like a friend

You came knockin' on my heart's door
You're everything I've been looking for

No more lookin' for love in all the wrong places
Lookin' for love in too many faces
Searchin' their eyes
Lookin' for traces of what I'm dreaming of
Now that I found a friend and lover
God bless the day I discover
You, oh you, lookin' for love

 

You are still here… hope you are in awe of those lyrics.  Now really... let’s hop on over to “Holding Out for a Hero”.

You can come back… and when you do… take a moment to soak in the beautiful truth of the song Build My Life by Pat Barrett – yet another love song.

Primer – I’m in Love with You

December 30, 2021 - Sunday

This morning, in the midst of our remodel, I decided to squeeze in a routine mammogram before the turn of the year.  Our deductible is met and I am overdue.  As I was out and about, I decided to shop for lights for our parlor room.  When I returned my husband had concealed the red walls with primer. “I’m in love! I’m in love! And I don’t care who knows it!” (You’ll have to excuse me – I am still coming off the joy of the Christmas season.  Elf anybody?).  You know you have made a good decision when you fall in love with primer.  What a breath of fresh air from the dark reds.  It is almost as if a weight has been lifted from my shoulders.  How can color do that?

Speaking of color.  We have decided on Colonial Revival Gray (by Sherwin Williams).  I am all about revival!  And oh how I love the history of Colonial America.  Meet my perfect color.  The color is as lovely as its name.

Tomorrow we paint!